Importance of Homeostasis:
What is Important in Working with Homeostasis
to Get Unstuck
Given the importance of homeostasis, you cannot root
out or prevent it and its attendant fears, you can negotiate with them.
• Break the change
in question into smaller steps. This reduces the intensity of the resistance.
(Remember, homeostasis increases with the size of the change, not the
nature or value of the change.)
• Pace yourself.
Making the change over time instead of all at once reduces the intensity
of the homeostatic reaction.
• Analyze the actual
risk. Remember what you learned about Fear 1 and Fear 2 in "Principle
3: Discern Two Types of Fear"? Fear
1 magnifies danger as it minimizes your competence. Seek reliable information
about the scope of the risk you are taking and the best means to meet
it. The better your information about the actual risk involved, the less
huge it will seem.
• Set milestones
and celebrate when you reach them. This gives you a conscious history
of successful change and makes it easier to move into scary territory
in the future.
• Design an environment
that supports learning and growth and avoid people, places and things
that undermine learning. While a certain amount of resistance is inevitable
(that's the whole point,) why waste any more of your energy and attention
than is absolutely necessary on overcoming the tendency to stay stuck?
• Make a list of
aspects of your environment and brainstorm the choices you can make in
each to support stepping out of
your comfort zone. For example, you might choose to ask your friends
to support you in using empowering language or you might choose a gym
based on its emphasis on safe training techniques.
Laying a Foundation for Balancing the Importance of Homeostasis
and the Importance of Change
Commit to fundamental personal practices that keep you
centered, whole and flexible. Such practices instill in you a sense of
stability and groundedness that minimizes the feeling that you are at
risk when you go out of your comfort zone. Helpful practices include:
• Participating in a support group
• Working with a coach.
Make the Most of Setbacks
Reframe setbacks as perfectly created exercises in the
workshop of your life. It will be easier for you to accept homeostasis
and its role in making changes if you let go of the fantasy that there
is or should be a point in your life after which you will have "arrived"
and will no longer find change difficult.
Where Do You
Go From Here?
takes 21 days to turn a new behavior into a habit. I invite you to print
and use this worksheet
in PDF format to record your insights and practice the principles
in this book as you work with your fears. There is room on each page for
you to record your fears, to discern two
types of fear, to explore how fear shows up in your body, and to work
with homeostasis. In addition, each day features an inspirational quote.
Alternatively, you are invited to download the whole
guide here: Getting
Free From Fear.
Remember to review the principles of dealing
with fear in this book as you do your daily writing. The intentionality
and care you bring to this process will be repaid a thousandfold in increased
confidence, flexibility, and courage.
If you work through this book and keep a 21-day journal
of your experience with fear, you will set in motion a long-term shift
that will empower and support you for the rest of your life.
I'd love to hear your experiences as you meet and
manage your fears. Send them to me at mollyATmollygordon.com.
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About the Author
Molly Gordon is a Master Certified Coach,
who shows accidental entrepreneurs how to manifest the success that is
the natural consequence of living their hearts' desires with integrity,
authenticity, and passion. Since 1996, she has coached hundreds of clients
through personal and professional transformation. Her unique coaching
style is informed by her experience as a business owner and artist as
well as her lifetime commitment to service and creativity. She is a widely
sought after speaker and facilitator.
I support my clients to live lives of meaning and prosperity. Learn more
about business coaching and
personal growth coaching
I offer. When you are ready to transform your life, email me, mgordonATmollygordon.com,
to discuss whether coaching is right for you and to see if we are a good
fit. Until then, please accept my heartfelt good wishes.
Feel the fear and do it anyway. Susan Jeffers
How to Overcome
Fears and Anxiety
by Molly Gordon, MCC
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