Dealing With Fear and Anxiety
- Principle 4:
Maintaining Homeostasis, Self Sabotage,
and Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone
If one advances confidently in the direction of his
brand endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he
will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.
Henry David Thoreau
The above quote is inspiring. It is also incomplete,
for it is also true that if one advances confidently in the direction
of his dreams he will meet with homeostasis.
What Is Homeostasis?
Homeostasis is the tendency of a system or organism to
stay the same. It's like a thermostat that keeps change within a
certain range. Call that range your comfort zone. In order to learn and
grow, it is necessary to leave your comfort zone, yet every time you do,
homeostasis kicks in, slowing your progress or halting it altogether.
Homeostasis often shows up as fear. For example, you'll
be moving along nicely toward a certain goal when, seemingly out of the
blue, you get panicky and stop. You get an interview or you have a proposal
accepted, and once the initial excitement wears off you are left with
the sick certainty that you cannot live up to the opportunity.
Because homeostasis is a systemic response to change,
it can feel like self sabotage. There is an important difference: self
sabotage implies that some part of you has an active desire to undermine
your progress. In contrast, maintaining homeostasis is a value-neutral,
automatic response to change. It is not the result of a secret desire
to fail or of any hidden agenda other than the built-in tendency of the
system to stay the same.
If you mistake maintaining homeostasis for self sabotage,
you may waste precious energy beating yourself up for limiting beliefs
or hidden agendas. If, indeed, you have such issues, it will be well for
you to address them. However, you can be in marvelous mental and emotional
health, free of limiting beliefs, and still run into a brick wall when
homeostasis kicks in.
Fortunately, the better you understand homeostasis, the
less power it will have over you. Here are some key points to keep in
a. Homeostatic fear shows up regardless
of whether the change is good or bad, wise or foolhardy. The intensity
of fear and resistance is related to the size and pace of the change,
not to the quality (good, bad, wise, unwise) of the change.
b. You may encounter homeostatic fear
among family, friends, colleagues and clients as well as in yourself.
This does not have to mean that these people have a secret desire to sabotage
you. Their concerns may simply be the expression of natural resistance
to any change.
Next: What is
Important in Working with Homeostasis to Get Unstuck
About the Author
Molly Gordon is a Master Certified Coach,
who shows accidental entrepreneurs how to manifest the success that is
the natural consequence of living their hearts' desires with integrity,
authenticity, and passion. Since 1996, she has coached hundreds of clients
through personal and professional transformation. Her unique coaching
style is informed by her experience as a business owner and artist as
well as her lifetime commitment to service and creativity. She is a widely
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Feel the fear and do it anyway. Susan Jeffers
How to Overcome
Fears and Anxiety
by Molly Gordon, MCC
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