What’s in the Water?

Guidance for Swimming Against the Stream

In waking up to whiteness, there are questions to answer and ideas to confront. Molly’s insights bring perspective and clarity.

Molly Gordon
Recent articles

There’s Nothing You Need to Fix in Order to Be More Loving

Love happens on two levels: the love we do and the love we are. The love we are is like the sun. The love we do, which is the product of our thinking in the moment, is like the weather. When the weather is clear, the sun shines through. When it is stormy, not so much....

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How to Deal with Runaway Guilt

Guilt is like a car alarm. Some of us have super-sensitive alarms that go off at the slightest vibration. Here's how to deal with that. Click here to learn about my newest program, The Art of Living: Creating Magic and Meaning in Life and Work. Save $100 when you sign...

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Enjoy the Ride (Dealing with Difficult Experiences)

How does seeing where experience comes from help us? By reminding us that even when the ride gets really, really scary, we are safe in our seats. Jumping off the ride (retreating from life) won't help. Staying put gives us our best shot at enjoying the ride.Click here...

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Again with the Freedom to Choose (Your Wild and Precious Life)

The theme of choice continues in this reflection on the difference in how we experience choice depending on whether we are regarding it as a test or an expression of our human capacity. I riff on Mary Oliver's well-known line, "What is it you plan to do with your one...

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When Reality Hits, It Isn’t “Reality”

When Reality Hits, It Isn't "Reality" A long time ago in a galaxy far, far away I was a heavy smoker. Heavy as in two packs a day. One day I decided to quit. It was the last day of a hunting trip in eastern Washington. (Yes, in that other galaxy in that other...

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Choosing Right Versus Generating Choices

A choice between two things is not a choice; it's a dilemma. Instead of setting up your cognitive filters to sort things into binary options, what if you changed your agenda from making the right choice or the best choice to discovering how to generate choices in the...

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