To push or not to push, that is the question

To push or not to push, that is the question

Last week on the monthly Goldilocks coaching call we talked about planning, goals, and productivity, and when to pressure yourself to follow through and when not to. After all, setting a goal-less goal and navigating from a nice feeling might work some of the time,...
How to get planning right or how not to be a bridezilla in your business

How to get planning right or how not to be a bridezilla in your business

I can get really nervous around brides to be. I have a lot of thinking about the time, energy, and expense involved in planning a wedding. Some of that is my stuff. Some comes from seeing good people transformed into bridezillas by attachment to their visions of the...
On the potential for gratitude for the biz side of your work

On the potential for gratitude for the biz side of your work

Two things came together last week to inspire this post: the  death of a friend and the approach of Thanksgiving in the USA. One of the most shocking aspects of my friend’s death was the vacuum left by the sudden absence of his huge enthusiasm for life. Bob had...
Why planning might not be a good idea (How peering into the future quashed true love)

Why planning might not be a good idea (How peering into the future quashed true love)

When I was a senior in high school my true love was a sophomore in college. That was back in the day when long distance calls were expensive, and we wrote piles of earnest letters full of angst and idealism. One day I received a letter that signaled the beginning of...
How to promote your work: Stick your head in the sand or dance on the beach?

How to promote your work: Stick your head in the sand or dance on the beach?

If you are reading this, you’ve probably thought a fair amount about how to promote your work. My guess is that some of that thinking has been fraught with feelings ranging from queasiness to outright disgust. As if that weren’t uncomfortable enough, you...
Why working on yourself doesn’t work (and the simple thing that does)

Why working on yourself doesn’t work (and the simple thing that does)

Like every human being I’ve ever met, I am sometimes discontented. No big deal. But during a recent spell of gritchiness, I got the idea that I shouldn’t feel that way. Given my deepening understanding of the spiritual principles behind the human...