When you think there’s got to be an easier way, there is

When you think there’s got to be an easier way, there is

One day on your morning walk you come upon a man bashing his head against a brick wall in the middle of a field. You watch, mesmerized, as he stands in front of the wall and rhythmically butts his head against it over and over again. After a few minutes you just have...
To push or not to push, that is the question

To push or not to push, that is the question

Last week on the monthly Goldilocks coaching call we talked about planning, goals, and productivity, and when to pressure yourself to follow through and when not to. After all, setting a goal-less goal and navigating from a nice feeling might work some of the time,...
Are you running your personal operating system?

Are you running your personal operating system?

A number of years ago I found myself at the first meeting of the new year with my mastermind group. Given the nature of the group and the time of year, it seemed logical to set goals. Logical maybe, but it wasn’t happening for me. I searched my thoughts and...
Why planning might not be a good idea (How peering into the future quashed true love)

Why planning might not be a good idea (How peering into the future quashed true love)

When I was a senior in high school my true love was a sophomore in college. That was back in the day when long distance calls were expensive, and we wrote piles of earnest letters full of angst and idealism. One day I received a letter that signaled the beginning of...
Why working on yourself doesn’t work (and the simple thing that does)

Why working on yourself doesn’t work (and the simple thing that does)

Like every human being I’ve ever met, I am sometimes discontented. No big deal. But during a recent spell of gritchiness, I got the idea that I shouldn’t feel that way. Given my deepening understanding of the spiritual principles behind the human...

Why the past can’t hold you back

A few days back I had a stunning insight while coaching a participant in the Authentic Wealth virtual retreat: I have no history. In a flash I understood that what we believe to be our histories is simply our current thinking about our previous thoughts about people,...