What’s in the Water?
Guidance for Swimming Against the Stream
In waking up to whiteness, there are questions to answer and ideas to confront. Molly’s insights bring perspective and clarity.
Empowerment: a realistic alternative to the drama triangle
Empowerment. It's one of those words that have been so ill- and over-used that it almost connotes its opposite. Therefore, it was with a certain amount of skepticism that I first looked at my friend and colleague David Emerald's book, The Power of TED* (*The...
Why I love coaching
Ohmigod, do I love coaching. Today I had lunch with Michael Bungay Stainer, who last night was named "Canada's Best Coach." Readers of my ezine will recognize Michael as the creator of what I call "the $54 coach," a beautifully designed and brilliantly conceived book...
Out of the cage: random thoughts on coaching and integral snobbishness
It's 12:29 and 52 seconds by my computer clock, and after two hours of trying to get the titles of my posts to wrap in the right hand column instead of extending past the white space, I realized it would be simpler to shorten the titles. So I did. Shorter. Now why...
Peaking over the edge of the well
All right, sports fans. Comments are enabled. The URL has been simplified. And the new site, blog and all, has been ported to ShaboomInc.com. It's a new day.
Growing Up Is Hard to Do
Grown ups need to deal with relationships with people who are in one way or another dependent on them, especially people who are supposed to be grown ups themselves. As the oldest of eight children, I found having things reasonably together and being reasonably...
Confessions of an info junkie
My name is Molly, and I am an information junkie. I started using information to feel good about myself and to make myself safe when, in the first grade, I received an “A” in Phonics. My parents were incredibly proud....
Tales of Woe and Intrigue
I’m frequently surprised by the number of intelligent and seemingly self-aware people who not only fall for but also promulgate sob stories. I’m talking about culturally mediated and validated sob stories, choruses of “ain’t it awful’’ sung in settings ranging from...
I know we’re not supposed to fear failure, but…
How do you respond to failure? How do you feel when you realize you’ve made an error of judgment or violated your own standards? Personally, I hate it. And nothing irritates me more than a happy-talking, self-appointed New Age pundit who’s getting rich telling me that...
Team Party
Have I mentioned that our fearless leader, Steve Rhoades, is at the heart of the cycling adventure? That's Steve on the left. The team is celebrating his 51st birthday. To Steve's left are Molly, Mike (a stalwart companion and honorary BP), and Julie.